Image Source: cocoafab.comNowadays, children are born sharp and are able to observe and quickly pick up some habits from what happens around them which on the long run would affect them and you.
Below are the ways to make your children love and respect you.
1. Being a good role model to them
Your kids in whatever age, there is absolute need for you to always stand as a point of good reference and good example for them. "For instance, your child sees you smoking, the probability that s/he would become a smoker in future is high because s/he wouldn't see anything bad in it if the parent does it. Same with consuming alcohol in the presence of your kids." Or you have fights with your spouse while your kids are watching/hearing, chances are that those kids would grow up to do same. They could even start by learning as siblings how to beat each other up. Show your kid that you are a responsible parent by showing him/her good examples.
2. Do not hesitate to discipline them
The usual saying that goes like "charity begins at home", whenever your child does anything wrong, be quick to let him/her know that such thing is wrong. Teach them what is acceptable by the society and what is not. The sole aim is to let them know that certain things are bad and telling them to not do it again or risk facing the consequence. Another thing is, should in any case an outsider tries to discipline your child, accept it in lighter terms. You alone cannot train your child and when people try to correct your child in some way, welcome it. Just that some people go extra-mile with this privilege. Whichever way, be in control. And should anybody violently corrects your child, report such person to the appropriate authority.
3. Spend quality time with your kids.
I and my siblings in particular, we had a wonderful childhood experience because our parents spared time out of their busy hours to play, eat with us and teach us. Sometimes, those are the periods we get disciplined for certain misbehaviors. Spending time with your kids allow room for communication.
They get to know who their parents really are, they tend to develop deep affection and attachment with you when you do this. When your kids don't get the attention they need and deserve from you, they see you like a stranger and that family bond won't be there. Your child might be bullied in school and how would you know if you don't allow them the time and opportunity to tell you? Your kids may have difficulty with their school assignment but can not get the help since you are too busy to help them out.
We are quite aware of the fact that your being busy might be in effort to secure them a better future but making time out of those busy schedules to attend to them would be appreciated. Love surpasses money. Am I correct?
4. Respect your child's privacy
When your child has attained certain age, puberty in particular. There is the need to respect their privacy. What is appreciated of you at this moment of their life is to advice and guide them through. Make them realize the implication of certain decisions.
Allow them space to reflect on personal issues. Do not try to be too over protective. Even though I demanded that you spend quality time with them on the third step, but allow them to be in control of their space. Ask if they want to talk and should they decline, let them be.
Alright! I hope I have been able to tackle this topic to an extent. I wish you luck in raising children! And should you feel there's part I omitted, feel free to let us know on the comment box.
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